Enlightened Parenting

Parenting my Parent

One of the more challenging relationships we have is when we are adults ourselves, and we have elderly parents who need to be parented.  Using the scripture we are taught that one of our responsibilities is to honour our parents and ancestors, while at the same time the fulfill our responsibility to our children.  When these two require very different strategies we are pulled into impossible situations. Continue reading “Parenting my Parent”

Non dual knowledge for Kids

Managing Strong Emotions

It’s quite common when one encounters nondual self knowledge to get confused about how to manage strong emotions like grief, anger or deep sadness. Even great joy and enthusiasm can pull you off balance. There’s this expectation that when you have Self knowledge, you know that the world you find yourself in is only apparent, and so strong emotions are illegitimate. This is a mistake. Continue reading “Managing Strong Emotions”

Enlightened Parenting

Parenting – the Ultimate Endurance Test

When I decided to have a child, never did I realize the extent of my Parental Responsibility and how many times it would push me to the limits of my endurance.  And just when you think you’ve crossed the finish line and your child has ‘grown up’ that’s when you hit the next phase and realize you’re never done.   Continue reading “Parenting – the Ultimate Endurance Test”

Enlightened Playing

The joy really is not in the objects

It’s the end of the year, and all around me people are hell-bent on finding the joy…. in the food they eat, the drinks they consume, the shopping they do and the holidays they enjoy. All fun in the moment.  But then what?  In a week they go back to their regular lives, all the joys spent and over. Memories stored up and feasted on until 50 more weeks have passed and it can all be re-enacted.

‘After you have exhausted what there is in business, politics, conviviality, love, and so on — have found that none of these finally satisfy, or permanently wear — what remains?’  Walt Whitman

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Enlightened Working

Do what needs to be done

I am a parent of 3 young boys, I need to  work to earn a living, and I above all am committed to nondual self knowledge. Sometimes all I really want to do is run off to an ashram and meditate or study scripture.

However, I know my svadharma as a parent requires me to do what needs to be done, without attachment to results, to attain the highest good.  This means being available as a parent in a way that my sons need me, while at the same time adhering to my spiritual needs and earning a reasonable living.  It’s not an either or scenario.

I can't be the best parent I need to be if I negate my spiritual self.

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