As a jiva I am very familiar and comfortable with change. I get awesome ideas, can’t help getting enthusiastic, then find myself gathering resources and turning them into reality. Problem is … I’m a Panglosian -‘characterized by or given to extreme optimism, especially in the face of unrelieved hardship or adversity.’ It’s a happy way to live, but can bring unnecessary and unwanted drama and rajas into my life. For this reason, I’ve declared this my ‘Year of No’. Continue reading “My ‘Year of Not Yet’”
This morning as we were driving to school we had a great example of the different gunas. One son was bright, extroverted, chatty. One was dull, lethargic and bored, and one son was calm, peaceful and content. A perfect physical manifestation of the three gunas. Continue reading “Introducing Children to Gunas”
My son hit 9 years old and started behaving like a teenager. Surly, moody, aggressive. I wanted to not be around him, but that made him more agitated. Strategies that previously worked to motivate and encourage him were greeted with ‘that’s not worth it for me, Mom’! I was horrified, and frustrated. Continue reading “Go towards the problem”
Wise people never pray for specific things, because they know ‘that which is not destined to happen as a result of fructifying karma will not happen.’ Inquiry into Existence’, James Swartz
With this in mind we could teach our children to pray for the chance to make a contribution to the field, for an intellect that can understand who they are, and for gratitude for what they have. Continue reading “What to pray for?”
A vasana is a habit or tendency that has developed over time. The thoughts we think, actions we take, and how our lives unfold are largely driven by our vasanas. The person’s challenge is to develop helpful vasanas (uplifting socializing, healthy eating, positive hobbies) and reduce the pull of unhelpful tendencies. Children can be taught these principles and in that way at least start to notice how they behave and the effects on their lives. Continue reading “Surfing the vasana”
Helping children to understand the concept of ‘God’ in nonduality terms can be challenging. It’s pretty easy to think of God as a large Man in the sky to whom you pray. That’s the prevailing western ‘knowledge’. Correcting this notion is the bedrock of nonduality. Continue reading “What is God?”
Instead of viewing homework as a necessary evil, try changing your mindset and view it as a special time with your child. Find a quiet space (we do homework in their rooms) and let the other children know that they are not to disturb you – they are likely to oblige as they will want their own undisturbed parent time too. Continue reading “Re-brand ‘Homework’”
For my early adult life I was a very successful and happy entrepreneur. I had grand plans to carry on for the foreseeable future…all was good. Alas, the Field (Ishvara) had other plans for me! Continue reading “An unexpected change in dharma…”
Qualifications + Karma Yoga + Guna Management = The Vedanta Three
Use the ‘Vedanta Three’ as a solid, stable foundation upon which to build a Householder Practice.
Whatever external circumstances occurs, bring attention back to the Vedanta Three – this is the point at which the doer seemingly acts….until you realize you’re the knower of the doer.
Either way, the stress and struggle evaporates.
The tendencies that extrovert the mind need to be sacrificed for the sake of a quiet mind, one capable of meditating on the Self, reflecting on the non-dual teachings and assimilating the knowledge.(JS)