Parenting my Parent

One of the more challenging relationships we have is when we are adults ourselves, and we have elderly parents who need to be parented.  Using the scripture we are taught that one of our responsibilities is to honour our parents and ancestors, while at the same time the fulfill our responsibility to our children.  When these two require very different strategies we are pulled into impossible situations. Continue reading “Parenting my Parent”

Managing Strong Emotions

It’s quite common when one encounters nondual self knowledge to get confused about how to manage strong emotions like grief, anger or deep sadness. Even great joy and enthusiasm can pull you off balance. There’s this expectation that when you have Self knowledge, you know that the world you find yourself in is only apparent, and so strong emotions are illegitimate. This is a mistake. Continue reading “Managing Strong Emotions”

Parenting – the Ultimate Endurance Test

When I decided to have a child, never did I realize the extent of my Parental Responsibility and how many times it would push me to the limits of my endurance.  And just when you think you’ve crossed the finish line and your child has ‘grown up’ that’s when you hit the next phase and realize you’re never done.   Continue reading “Parenting – the Ultimate Endurance Test”

The joy really is not in the objects

It’s the end of the year, and all around me people are hell-bent on finding the joy…. in the food they eat, the drinks they consume, the shopping they do and the holidays they enjoy. All fun in the moment.  But then what?  In a week they go back to their regular lives, all the joys spent and over. Memories stored up and feasted on until 50 more weeks have passed and it can all be re-enacted.

‘After you have exhausted what there is in business, politics, conviviality, love, and so on — have found that none of these finally satisfy, or permanently wear — what remains?’  Walt Whitman

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Children must contribute

I’m often startled by how minimal our expectations are on children to give back and to make a contribution to the family.  In many families it’s just accepted that children are on the receiving end of parental effort, with very little expectation of the child’s effort in return. Continue reading “Children must contribute”