Helping children to understand the concept of ‘God’ in nonduality terms can be challenging. It’s pretty easy to think of God as a large Man in the sky to whom you pray. That’s the prevailing western ‘knowledge’. Correcting this notion is the bedrock of nonduality. Continue reading “What is God?”
Instead of viewing homework as a necessary evil, try changing your mindset and view it as a special time with your child. Find a quiet space (we do homework in their rooms) and let the other children know that they are not to disturb you – they are likely to oblige as they will want their own undisturbed parent time too. Continue reading “Re-brand ‘Homework’”
For my early adult life I was a very successful and happy entrepreneur. I had grand plans to carry on for the foreseeable future…all was good. Alas, the Field (Ishvara) had other plans for me! Continue reading “An unexpected change in dharma…”
Qualifications + Karma Yoga + Guna Management = The Vedanta Three
Use the ‘Vedanta Three’ as a solid, stable foundation upon which to build a Householder Practice.
Whatever external circumstances occurs, bring attention back to the Vedanta Three – this is the point at which the doer seemingly acts….until you realize you’re the knower of the doer.
Either way, the stress and struggle evaporates.
The tendencies that extrovert the mind need to be sacrificed for the sake of a quiet mind, one capable of meditating on the Self, reflecting on the non-dual teachings and assimilating the knowledge.(JS)
Children grow up anyway, our influence is in the mix with their peers, teachers, school and increasingly the media they consume. We only shave off the hard edges and teach them to manage their existing tendencies….all the rest is up to their in-born programming.
…and you get the mind receptive by action. Consistency, perseverance, and a dogged determination to bring about change are what’s required. That’s the message you send to Ishvara (God) and Ishvara has no choice but to give you the appropriate results – Self Knowledge.
One of the more challenging relationships we have is when we are adults ourselves, and we have elderly parents who need to be parented. Using the scripture we are taught that one of our responsibilities is to honour our parents and ancestors, while at the same time the fulfill our responsibility to our children. When these two require very different strategies we are pulled into impossible situations. Continue reading “Parenting my Parent”
It’s quite common when one encounters nondual self knowledge to get confused about how to manage strong emotions like grief, anger or deep sadness. Even great joy and enthusiasm can pull you off balance. There’s this expectation that when you have Self knowledge, you know that the world you find yourself in is only apparent, and so strong emotions are illegitimate. This is a mistake. Continue reading “Managing Strong Emotions”
When I decided to have a child, never did I realize the extent of my Parental Responsibility and how many times it would push me to the limits of my endurance. And just when you think you’ve crossed the finish line and your child has ‘grown up’ that’s when you hit the next phase and realize you’re never done. Continue reading “Parenting – the Ultimate Endurance Test”