I am a parent of 3 young boys, I need to work to earn a living, and I above all am committed to nondual self knowledge. Sometimes all I really want to do is run off to an ashram and meditate or study scripture.
However, I know my svadharma as a parent requires me to do what needs to be done, without attachment to results, to attain the highest good. This means being available as a parent in a way that my sons need me, while at the same time adhering to my spiritual needs and earning a reasonable living. It’s not an either or scenario.
I can't be the best parent I need to be if I negate my spiritual self.
I have had to find a way to accommodate all three necessities of the householder within my lifestyle – sometimes this involves early mornings, or saying no to invitations and certainly saying no to requests from my children when my own needs require it. It involves a truthful assessment of what’s really needed financially to maintain a happy life and truly being satisfied with that.
A healthy balance between all needs can be found with some creativity and a healthy dose of dispassion.