In the first few weeks of the school year, teachers often roll out the ‘Rights and Responsibilities’ teaching – wherein the class together explores and agrees the rights of all the people in the class, as well as the responsibilities that go along with that. A similar concept exists for parents – there are rights and responsibilities that go along with having a child.
Parents rights and children's rights should be accommodated
As a parent your responsibility would include providing a safe and nurturing environment for the child, enough healthy food and plenty of love. Education and other experiences would be included as your responsibility too – the type and variety of these would be your preference and what’s best for the child and family.
What’s often not made explicit is the Rights of the Parent. These would include, for example, the right to respect, honesty and a mutual contribution of the child to the household, amongst others. What sometimes happens in households is that in the chaos and newness of the first few months and years of a child’s arrival, the rights of the parents get forgotten. The parents are just coping as the child takes up the majority of the time and attention. After a few years the parents finally have the head-space to look up, and realize they are at the bottom of the family pecking order.
Their rights as parents have not been included in the mix.
What is now required is a re-establishment of the correct family dharma – the Parents Rights must re-established and the child becomes a contributing member of the household, rather than the director/dictator.