Enlightened Playing

The joy really is not in the objects

It’s the end of the year, and all around me people are hell-bent on finding the joy…. in the food they eat, the drinks they consume, the shopping they do and the holidays they enjoy. All fun in the moment.  But then what?  In a week they go back to their regular lives, all the joys spent and over. Memories stored up and feasted on until 50 more weeks have passed and it can all be re-enacted.

‘After you have exhausted what there is in business, politics, conviviality, love, and so on — have found that none of these finally satisfy, or permanently wear — what remains?’  Walt Whitman

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Enlightened Working

Do what needs to be done

I am a parent of 3 young boys, I need to  work to earn a living, and I above all am committed to nondual self knowledge. Sometimes all I really want to do is run off to an ashram and meditate or study scripture.

However, I know my svadharma as a parent requires me to do what needs to be done, without attachment to results, to attain the highest good.  This means being available as a parent in a way that my sons need me, while at the same time adhering to my spiritual needs and earning a reasonable living.  It’s not an either or scenario.

I can't be the best parent I need to be if I negate my spiritual self.

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Enlightened Playing

Passionately dispassionate

As an avid tennis player, I find myself with an interesting conundrum – I know the game is only an apparent game and doesn’t matter in the slightest, and at the same time I really do play to win and care about the outcome.

I feel I have a responsibility to play to the best of my ability in order to give my opponent the chance to play to the best of their ability.

That's tennis dharma.

I’m passionate about winning….in a dispassionate way.

Enlightened Parenting

The Rights of Parents

In the first few weeks of the school year, teachers often roll out the ‘Rights and Responsibilities’ teaching – wherein the class together explores and agrees the rights of all the people in the class, as well as the responsibilities that go along with that.  A similar concept exists for parents – there are rights and responsibilities that go along with having a child. Continue reading “The Rights of Parents”