It’s the end of the year, and all around me people are hell-bent on finding the joy…. in the food they eat, the drinks they consume, the shopping they do and the holidays they enjoy. All fun in the moment. But then what? In a week they go back to their regular lives, all the joys spent and over. Memories stored up and feasted on until 50 more weeks have passed and it can all be re-enacted.
‘We are non-stop consumers. The Mind constantly chews emotion, the intellect eats ideas, and the ego devours any experience it believes will make it feel whole, adequate happy.’ James Swartz in the Atma Bodha
Do we work in order to consume more, or to make a contribution back to the field?
We tend to get into ruts where we keep telling the same story again and again. Instead ask ‘Why do I keep telling this story?’ Continue reading “Don’t believe your story”
I’m often startled by how minimal our expectations are on children to give back and to make a contribution to the family. In many families it’s just accepted that children are on the receiving end of parental effort, with very little expectation of the child’s effort in return. Continue reading “Children must contribute”
I am a parent of 3 young boys, I need to work to earn a living, and I above all am committed to nondual self knowledge. Sometimes all I really want to do is run off to an ashram and meditate or study scripture.
However, I know my svadharma as a parent requires me to do what needs to be done, without attachment to results, to attain the highest good. This means being available as a parent in a way that my sons need me, while at the same time adhering to my spiritual needs and earning a reasonable living. It’s not an either or scenario.
I can't be the best parent I need to be if I negate my spiritual self.
As an avid tennis player, I find myself with an interesting conundrum – I know the game is only an apparent game and doesn’t matter in the slightest, and at the same time I really do play to win and care about the outcome.
I feel I have a responsibility to play to the best of my ability in order to give my opponent the chance to play to the best of their ability.
That's tennis dharma.
I’m passionate about winning….in a dispassionate way.
In the first few weeks of the school year, teachers often roll out the ‘Rights and Responsibilities’ teaching – wherein the class together explores and agrees the rights of all the people in the class, as well as the responsibilities that go along with that. A similar concept exists for parents – there are rights and responsibilities that go along with having a child. Continue reading “The Rights of Parents”